Is Contacting an Ex Hurt Your Chances of Getting Them Back?
Are you going through a breakup and you don’t know if contacting an ex is a good idea or bad idea. Well, truth be told, contacting an ex can greatly impact whether or not you can get your ex back. If you want to know if contacting an ex is a good idea, please continue reading.
I know that what you’re going through right now isn’t easy. Those restless nights laying in bed and being constantly riddled with thoughts about your ex. A breakup is never easy. Our relationships are among the most important aspects in our lives and when we lose someone we love, it is heartbreaking. That is why you feel the need to contact your ex.
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Your attempt to bring your ex back to you will only push your ex further away from you. Why? Because in a breakup, your ex wants and needs space away from you to reevaluate their life. The more contact you do, the more you will push your ex away.
It’s very common for people going through a breakup that feel the need to reach out to their ex. Unfortunately, these acts come off as a desperate attempt. When you call, text message, email or perhaps visit your ex, not only are you not respecting their wishes but you are coming off as desperate and needy—which is very unattractive.
Would you be attracted to someone who needs you to be happy? No, and neither does your ex. This is why contacting an ex immediately after a breakup is nothing but futile and desperate attempts to reach out them. If contacting your ex is something you feel as if you don’t have control of because you’re an emotional wreck right now, than there is something you must understand.
As much as you wish you can, you can’t control your ex’s feelings, thoughts or emotions. The only person you have control of is yourself. Instead of demanding for your ex’s love (which is what you do when you keep contacting an ex) try attracting your ex back to you.
You and your ex used to be very much in love. What happened there? I don’t know exactly what went wrong in your relationship but I feel it’s safe for me to assume that things were great until negative emotions from life stresses got in the way. When you’re internal world is upside down because of stress, it’s no wonder your relationship becomes affected by it.
Instead of contacting an ex, what you need to do is to become the person your ex first fell in love with. Are you the same attractive and radiant person that your ex first fell in love with?
If your answer is no, than what you need to do is take time for self-improvement in your life that you feel is lacking. Perhaps, certain relationships, hobbies and interest have been put on the back burner since your relationship. Reconnect with old friends and go out and do what you love. While you’re doing this, not only are you working on your self-esteem and confidence, when the time comes to contacting an ex, you will be more than ready to attract your ex back.