Stop Asking Yourself “How Can I Win Her Back,” Instead Do This
Are you trying to win your girlfriend back after she broke up with you? I know that what you’re going through is not easy. When we lose someone we love, we are left shattered and heartbroken. If the question “how can I win her back?” plagues you night and day, please read more about what you can do to get her back.
How can I win her back if she won’t even talk to me?
Let me guess, the reason why you want to talk to her is so you can convince her to take you back, right? If for any reason your need to get in touch with her is fueled by feelings of desperation, than what you’re doing will only push her away. Apply the No Contact Rule. This means refrain from forms communicating with her.
Understand this ESSENTIAL key to winning her back. You can not control her emotions or feelings whatsoever and the more you try to “convince” her back, the more you’re fighting a losing battle. The only person you have control over is yourself. With that said, avoid focusing on what you can’t do but rather focus on what you CAN do to feel better about yourself.
How can I win her back if I shouldn’t contact her?
During the No Contact Rule, focus on yourself. There must be a certain aspect in your life that you feel is lacking. Whether you’ve lost touch with friends or need to shed a few pounds to get healthy, this is the time to take things off your back burner. When we’re in a relationships, it’s common for many of us to put things on hold.
Consider doing 1 social thing per week or sign up for classes you’re interested in. Whatever you decide to do with your time, it help keep your mind off your ex girlfriend. Also, during the No Contact Rule, you’ll realize that life will continue one with or without your girlfriend. Why not make the most of it and learn how to enjoy life again.
This will help you get in the right frame of mind that will help you attract you ex back. By learning how to smile again, you’re healing yourself from the hurt and pain in your breakup as well as gaining more confidence and self esteem. Nothing is more attractive than a person who is without a doubt—happy with themselves. This is where taking a deep look at yourself will you win her back.
How can I win her back once I have the “right” mindset?
Once you’re in the right frame of mind filled with self love and confidence, consider contacting your ex girlfriend again. When you do contact her, make sure there are no feelings of desperation and need. If you contact her with feelings fueled by desperation, you’re not ready. Take more time to get to that point until you WANT her instead of NEED her.
Ask her out for coffee to catch up on life. Make this date as simple as if you were hanging out with a friend. This way, there is no pressure and she’s at ease. When you’re in that “right” mind frame, she’ll instantly feel something “different” about you. What she’ll notice is this certain “Je ne sais pas” she can’t quite put her finger on because it’s an internal shift in your mindset you’ve made.
Again, most importantly, ask yourself, “what can I do to make myself feel better” instead of “how can I win her back?”