I’m Using The No Contact Rule – How Long Should I Wait?
Well, first of all, if you are using the no contact rule, you deserve some congratulations. You see, no many people have the courage or discipline to actually implement the no contact rule despite the fact that it is one of the most effective things you can do to get your ex back out there.
Using The No Contact Rule – How Long Should I Wait?
The short answer is about one month. This is important because it gives you the time you need to heal from the break up. Plus, it gives your ex a real chance to miss you and live the the consequences of breaking up with you.
In fact, don’t be surprised if your ex actually reaches out to you during this one month period of time because they miss you so much.
Now, of course, it is up to you if you decided if you want to start contact with your ex again at this point. There are benefits to either talking to them or continuing no contact for the full month.
Special Situations with the No Contact Rule – How Long Should I Wait if I Broke Down and Called My Ex?
I know that one month can be tough. Especially if you really love your ex and want to work things out with them. It’s only human to break down and reach out to them given the circumstances.
First of all, don’t beat yourself up. Just recognize that you broke the no contact rule and vow to start over again.
Yes, I said start over again.
You have to reset the clock and do it until you can get a full one month of no contact or until your ex breaks down and contacts you.
Coworkers and the No Contact Rule – How Long and How to Implement It on the Job or School
Another common problem with the no contact rule is that a lot of people see their ex regularly because they work with them or go to school with their ex.
How can you use the no contact rule in situations like this?
Well, first of all, you might not be able to truly use the no contact rule, but that doesn’t mean that you’ve reached a dead end. Simply completely go emotionally cold to your ex when you’re at work or school.
Interact with them as little as possible and keep all interactions completely professional.
The time frame for doing this, is also one month. After that, you can try being a little more personable with your ex. Invite them out for coffee to catch up and see how things go between the two of you.
So, try using the no contact rule for one month. Do your best to keep strong and avoid talking to your ex during this time. Work on personal healing and self-improvement. Then after one month, re-initiate contact with your ex.