Why Is My Relationship Falling Apart When I’m Doing Everything Right?
It can be really frustrating to see your relationship continue to struggle even if you’re doing everything “right”. What is going on and what can you do to save your relationship when everything seems to being down-hill despite your best efforts?
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Here are some common questions I’ve heard:
Q: My relationship is in real trouble even though I’m constantly doing everything I can to keep my partner happy. Why is my relationship falling apart when I’m doing everything right?
A: When this happens, I’ve noticed that in many cases this is because you are focusing too much on your partner and not enough on yourself. It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if your partner is happy and taken care of that your relationship will flourish.
However, that just isn’t the case. You see, as long as you continue to deny your own desires and needs, your relationship will start to erode. Why? Because you are constantly depending on your partner to feel good about yourself.
I believe that a successful relationship is the result of two people coming together who are successful individuals themselves. So I would suggest that you take the time to work on yourself and do things for you for a bit till you can find that balance.
Q: Why is my relationship falling apart and my partner seems to be disinterested in staying together when I’ve tried being open and understanding?
A: Like it or not, sometimes your partner may simply be resistant to working things out with you. Keep in mind that you cannot control another person, however, you can control yourself.
In this case, do what you can to take your own life in a positive direction. Pursue your dreams and reach for your goals. Often, your own optimism and positivity can be enough to sway a reluctant partner into changing their views on things.
But don’t do this as a subtle way of trying to manipulate them. Do this for yourself. If your partner decides to come along with you that is fine, but accept that they may not.
Q: Why is my relationship falling apart when I’m constantly working to hold things together?
A: If you’re doing all the work, then that really isn’t fair, and you can’t expect something like that to be realistically sustainable. Talk to your partner and tell that that the way things are going, can’t be maintained in the long run.
See if the two of you can reach some kind of understand or better way to have a sustainable relationship. If your partner seems unwilling or unable to do this, you may have to consider the thought that your relationship may not last.
After all, a successful relationship involves understanding and compromise. If you and your partner can’t find a way to do this in a way that works for both of you, then perhaps the relationship is just too much energy to keep. Make sure your partner knows this. Sometimes knowing that you mean business can really inspire your partner to find a way to make things work if they really know you care.